She's baaaaacccckkkk!

Good news first - the garden is finally growing.  I was getting a little worried.  We had such weird weather that it was really off to a slow start.  We're eating strawberries, lettuce, & radishes (well, I don't eat radishes but the boys do). We have broccoli & cheddar cauliflower really taking off and growing fast as well (it's yellow, like cheddar, wonder if it will taste different?)  No zuccinni yet and that tells you it's a weird year.  Usually have way too much of that yummy stuff by now! 



More good news, my grandson is doing very well.  I will get to see him July 17th.  Come on July 17th!!!!  I ask Zachary to tell me about him and this is what I get "well, he eats, poops, pees, sleeps, eats, poops, pees . . . "  Geeze!  As if that's all he does!







Now for the "she's baaaaackkkkk" part.  Yeah.  That would be good old Robin (Brad's ex for those of you lucky enough to forget who Robin is, or who may not have read any of my older blogs about this, this, this ....woman.)

So, it's been 13 months since she has seen her children.  6 months since she tried, that one time, and they freaked out and wouldn't go with her.  No Christmas cards or presents, no birthday cards or presents or telephone calls.  Nothing.  Then out of the blue I get a call from her.  She starts out in her nasty voice, telling me that I'm not taking care of their PKU blood draws or diet properly.  I had a migraine and was half asleep so I just kind of stared at the phone.  I finally managed a "What do you care?"  ooooh, that set her off.  So I hung up.  She called again and screamed some more and by now I am starting to wake up a bit.  She just said some really nasty things!  When I tried to answer her she hung up on me.  Well, now I'm pissed.  So I try to call her back.  She picks up and promptly hangs up before I can talk.  Three times.  Okay, so now my blood pressure is boiling.  I can get around this.  I text message her what I have to say.  By now she's called Brad (who is in Alaska at work) and left a nasty message for him.  He's mad that I reacted, I'm mad that I reacted,  Later he gets another message from her and she's saying she's at the court house filling out papers to file a no contact order against me.  Huh?  Can she do that when she contacted me first?  Why did I act like a crazy person trying to get a word in?  I acted as bad as her.  Sigh.  She didn't get it.  

My question is why I always react?  Yes, I have plenty of reason to dislike the woman.  Yes, she infuriates me.  But it has never done any good to be reactive.  In fact, it doesn't do any good to be non-reactive either.  Nothing works with this, this, this . . . woman.  But if only I could stay non-reactive for my own peace of mind and sanity.  You know, so I won't be ashamed of myself for being angry and unloving.  And not just once or twice, but every time she tries to push my buttons, I want to stay calm.  Be civil or just quietly hang up the phone.   The fact that she is telling Brad to get ahold of his lawyer again just freaks me out, I guess.  I'm so tired of giving so much money to lawyers and I'm so tired of the endless bullshit of Family Court.  Her litigation with her ex-husband (two years worth) is almost over, so I should have known she would feel the need to start something up with us.  She's addicted to that court room.




Big deep breath.  I feel better know.  Thanx for listening.